The Gottman Method: Building a "Sound Relationship House"

Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this method is based on over 40 years of research on what makes relationships thrive. It focuses on building a "Sound Relationship House" founded on seven key principles:

1. Build Love Maps: Deepen your understanding of your partner's inner world – their dreams, worries, history, and values.

2. Share Fondness and Admiration: Express appreciation and respect for each other, fostering a positive perspective on your relationship.

3. Turn Towards Instead of Away: Respond to your partner's bids for connection, building emotional intimacy and support.

4. The Positive Perspective: Allow positive sentiment to override negativity, fostering a collaborative and understanding approach to conflict.

5. Manage Conflict: Learn healthy conflict resolution skills, focusing on understanding and compromise rather than defensiveness or criticism.

6. Make Life Dreams Come True: Support each other's aspirations and create shared meaning in your lives.

7. Create Shared Meaning: Develop rituals, shared values, and a sense of purpose that strengthens your bond.

How the Gottman Method Can Help:

• Improve Communication: Learn to communicate effectively, express your needs clearly, and actively listen to your partner.

• Increase Intimacy and Connection: Strengthen your emotional bond through shared experiences, vulnerability, and affection.

• Resolve Conflict Constructively: Develop skills to navigate disagreements respectfully and find mutually satisfying solutions.

• Build Trust and Commitment: Foster a secure and trusting relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.

• Increase Relationship Satisfaction: Create a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership that supports individual and shared growth.

Is the Gottman Method Right for You?

The Gottman Method can be beneficial for couples who are:

• Seeking to improve communication and conflict resolution skills

• Wanting to deepen their emotional connection and intimacy

• Facing challenges such as infidelity, loss of trust, or life transitions

• Committed to building a stronger and more fulfilling relationship

Next Steps:

• Learn more about our therapists trained in the Gottman Method

• Schedule a consultation to discuss your relationship goals

• Explore other couples therapy approaches offered at New Horizons