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GOTTMAN METHOD

Are you looking to build a stronger, more loving relationship? At New Horizons, we utilize the Gottman Method, a research-based approach to couples therapy, to help you and your partner enhance your connection and navigate challenges effectively

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The Gottman Method: Building a "Sound Relationship House"

Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, this method is based on over 40 years of research on what makes relationships thrive. It focuses on building a "Sound Relationship House" founded on seven key principles:

  1. Build Love Maps: Deepen your understanding of your partner's inner world – their dreams, worries, history, and values.

  2. Share Fondness and Admiration: Express appreciation and respect for each other, fostering a positive perspective on your relationship.

  3. Turn Towards Instead of Away: Respond to your partner's bids for connection, building emotional intimacy and support.

  4. The Positive Perspective: Allow positive sentiment to override negativity, fostering a collaborative and understanding approach to conflict.

  5. Manage Conflict: Learn healthy conflict resolution skills, focusing on understanding and compromise rather than defensiveness or criticism.

  6. Make Life Dreams Come True: Support each other's aspirations and create shared meaning in your lives.

  7. Create Shared Meaning: Develop rituals, shared values, and a sense of purpose that strengthens your bond.

 

How the Gottman Method Can Help:

  • Improve Communication: Learn to communicate effectively, express your needs clearly, and actively listen to your partner.

  • Increase Intimacy and Connection: Strengthen your emotional bond through shared experiences, vulnerability, and affection.

  • Resolve Conflict Constructively: Develop skills to navigate disagreements respectfully and find mutually satisfying solutions.

  • Build Trust and Commitment: Foster a secure and trusting relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.

  • Increase Relationship Satisfaction: Create a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership that supports individual and shared growth.

 

Is the Gottman Method Right for You?

The Gottman Method can be beneficial for couples who are:

  • Seeking to improve communication and conflict resolution skills

  • Wanting to deepen their emotional connection and intimacy

  • Facing challenges such as infidelity, loss of trust, or life transitions

  • Committed to building a stronger and more fulfilling relationship

 

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