New Horizons Therapy NY Blog: How to Talk to Friends About Their Anger

Anger is a natural human emotion, but when it becomes excessive or uncontrollable, it can strain relationships and lead to negative consequences. If you're concerned about a friend's anger, it's important to approach the conversation with empathy, understanding, and a willingness to listen.

Here are some tips for talking to a friend about their anger:

1. Choose the Right Time and Place: Avoid starting the conversation when your friend is already angry or in a public setting. Find a private and quiet space where you can both talk openly without distractions.

2. Start with Empathy: Express your concern for your friend's well-being and let them know that you care about them. Acknowledge their feelings and validate their experience of anger.

3. Use "I" Statements: Instead of blaming or accusing your friend, focus on how their anger makes you feel. For example, instead of saying "You're always so angry," try "I feel worried when I see you get so angry."

4. Listen Actively: Give your friend space to express their emotions and listen without interrupting or judgment. Try to understand their perspective and the underlying reasons for their anger.

5. Avoid Giving Unsolicited Advice: While your intentions may be good, offering solutions before your friend is ready can be counterproductive. Instead, ask open-ended questions to help them explore their own feelings and potential solutions.

6. Offer Support: Let your friend know that you're there for them and willing to help in any way you can. Offer to listen, provide resources, or accompany them to therapy if they're open to it.

7. Set Boundaries: While it's important to be supportive, it's also crucial to protect your own well-being. If your friend's anger becomes abusive or threatening, set clear boundaries and seek help if necessary.

Remember, you're not responsible for fixing your friend's anger, but you can offer support and encouragement as they work through it. If you're unsure how to approach the conversation or if the situation escalates, don't hesitate to seek professional guidance from a therapist or counselor.

At New Horizons Therapy NY, we offer individual and group therapy for anger management, as well as support for loved ones of individuals struggling with anger. Contact us today to learn more about how we can help.

Disclaimer: This blog post is intended for informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional advice. If you or someone you know is struggling with anger, please seek help from a qualified mental health professional.